It feels like just yesterday that we met Samson for the first time. It seems like just yesterday when we saw the fear in his eyes and felt the resistance in his body language as his nannies handed him over to our family. It seems like just yesterday when we boarded a plane to come home with the most amazing gift ever - a new son. We were in love!!!
But what was he thinking? Where did he think he was going? I can only imagine what was going through his head! Poor thing - it's understandable that he would be afraid! The whole time I was thinking, "if he gives us a chance, he will learn to trust and love us as his forever family. No more disruptions. No more moves. Just give us a chance to show you the love of a forever family."
2 months ago, we left as a family of 5 and came home as a family of 6. It seems like just yesterday but at the same time, it feels like he has been with us forever.
Some of the changes we have seen in 2 months:
When we came home, he only understood his language and we communicated using sign and body language. 2 months home, he fully understands what we ask of him and his English is growing by leaps and bounds. Some common phrases and words he says:
"Mommy, watch this!" "Daddy, look at me!" (when he wants to show off one of his many talents)
When he sees or hears an airplane, with finger raised in the air, he shouts out, "Airplane! Airplane!"
"That's Yunnie's!" Yunnie is what they called him at the care center and when he claims something as his, he calls it Yunnie's.He can say his ABCs and count to 10.
He is extremely independent and says, "I want to do it" to almost everything, including turning on and off light switches, dressing and undressing himself, applying his own lotion, changing his own diaper, applying his own shampoo. He wants to be in control of everything!
Some English words and phrases that are cute:
"base a mint" (basement)
"Kee Kee George" (Curious George)
"lo shun on" (I want to put my own lotion on)
"Olawfia" (He still says this for Olivia)
He has grown over 2 inches!
He continues to grow stronger. After two months home, he can pull himself up on our bed, go down a slide sitting up instead of laying down and he also climbs stairs more on his own instead of asking to be carried.
And the most rewarding changes we have seen are in the area of attachment:
When we were first home, he would wave "bye bye mommy" when I left the house.
2 months home, he clings to me when I try the leave the house.
When we were first home, he fought hard not to be put down for nap time.
2 months home, he snuggles in and molds to my body for nap time and sings lulabyes along with me.
When we were first home, he would allow us to kiss him but would not give kisses.
2 months home, he gives out many kisses, sometimes unsolicited.
When we were first home, he would go to just about anyone.
2 months home, he prefers his mommy and daddy.
And the list can go on.....
We are so LUCKY - our family is overflowing with love!!!!