Wednesday, September 24, 2008
Tuesday, September 23, 2008
An orange colored berry bush I spotted along the trail:
Avery said, "mommy, take a picture of me sitting on this stump." Too cute! Look at her pose!
Just had to take this picture of them resting after our hike.
And after a long beautiful day of fresh air, Big Sis reads to the little ones before bedtime.
Wednesday, September 17, 2008
Man created THE WATCH
We heard this at our couples' Bible study from Tommy Nelson.
I've known that everything is in God's hands and in God's timing.
But ever since we started our adoption journey, I have been making predictions on our referral. I am done with making predictions. Indeed international adoption has proven to be unpredictable but more importantly, we will receive a referral for our child when he is ready to join our family. This is God's timing - not timing that anyone can predict.
Saturday, September 13, 2008
What I love about EF is that they will take anything from clothing to house hold products and they will do curbside pick up. This beats the work of a garage sale!
So, I said "YES! We do have stuff!" I have to get rid of stuff to make room for our son and this call was what I needed to get myself motivated to dig through boxes and other clutter.
It's interesting because as I was going through old toys of the girls (and I was able to get rid of some- shh! don't tell the girls!) I came across toys that should be very fitting for our son.
Saturday, September 6, 2008
We can only imagine the anguish and pain our son and birth family will experience or have already experienced. It's heart wrenching to know that he will inevitably go through a major loss in his life. Because of this, our referral will come with mixed emotions. We will be overjoyed by knowing who he is and saddened by the story behind why he became available for adoption.
Physically, we are ready for him - we have a place for him to sit in our van, a place for him at our table and a bedroom with a bed ready for him. We are also ready to love on him and welcome him with open arms and hearts. This part of our preparation has been enjoyable, simple and filled with excitement.Emotionally, this will no doubt be a difficult transition for our family and our son. I don't know if we can fully prepare for this part of the journey. We are sensitive to the fact that while he may find joy in joining our family, he will also be mourning the loss of his first family for some time. This is a hurdle we will prepare our best to come along side him, support him and do what ever we need to help him deal with his loss.
Someone on our forum made the following statement in regards to the lengthened wait time and I couldn't have said it any better:
"Somewhere, on the other side of the world, was a family, a family whose future was someday going to somehow intertwine with mine. And what that family was experiencing right then was something I could never imagine. And they would have probably given anything in the world to have nothing to complain about but a wait…"
They are the real heroes in this journey and they will always have a place in our hearts and we will be forever grateful to them for the gift of our son.
Last week, someone on our adoption forum stated that their specialist told them to expect a referral in September and that there are only about 5 families in front of them waiting for a toddler boy. Since this family has been waiting less than 2 months, I realized that we are one of those 5 families, which means we must be at the top of the list for a toddler boy referral. Again, this was last week.
Then yesterday, the disappointing news came:
Our agency hasn't given out a batch of referrals since the beginning of the summer. In an email from them yesterday, they announced that the referrals have slowed down and they are lengthening the wait times. They also don't expect referrals to pick up again until October 1st.
People on the forum have speculated as to why the referrals are slowing down. This is the explanation I understand so far: 1. More and more agencies are processing adoptions in Ethiopia. 2. The increase in the number of adoptions means more court cases in Ethiopia. 3. There are reports that other agencies have put a hold on the referrals of children with at least one living birth parent. There is a question about when a child has at least one living parent if they are by definition an orphan.
Many children our relinquished by their birth family due to severe poverty, so many children will still have at least one living parent.
I have faith that what ever bottle neck or red tape we find ourselves in, it's all part of our journey to bring our son home for I know that "Everything will work out for the good for those who know Him."